​RELATIONSHIPS, THE TRUE GOLD OF LIFE!
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As a "CFLE" Certified Family Life Educator and having taught and counselled hundreds of people over the years (and also having a great deal of personal experience), I am able to coach very effectively- and I try to always incorporate Relationship advise into my Happiness coaching. While it's true that just improving your happiness level (HQ quotient) will yield definite positive effects in your relationships, there is a great deal of specific information and useful methods to further improve in this area.

Quality relationships are a major joy in life and are extremely conducive to one's happiness. It is an obvious truth- sharing our lives with someone greatly increases our overall happiness level (and greatly diminished various hardships). Of course, the first step is to learn how to become happier yourself (raising your HQ Happiness Quotient) and then doing effective and specific things to improve existing relationships along with making new relationships (the most important usually being a desirable and compatible mate).

Although the ideal is to find a lifelong mate, the reality is that in many cases you might only be able to find someone who may be with you for just a number of years (or maybe even less). This was the case with me and my 3 longest relationships of  3, 4 and finally 25 years. Although they didn't last a lifetime, in each case I was able to make considerable personal progress and also considerably improve my financial situation far beyond the years that I was single. Looking for the ideal, but also changing your paradigm to include possibly shorter but mutually beneficial relationships, can greatly remove your fears and allow you to much more quickly develop beneficial relationships. Learning more specifically how to find that relationship, what to do and how to better communicate and adjust, will greatly increase your chances of making these very wonderful and life enhancing relationships. This in turn increases the possibility of finding and making an actual lifetime partner (which I believe to be the case in my recent 2 year plus relationship now).   

In my relationship coaching I begin by incorporating happiness concepts into the person's attitude and approach towards relationships. I also have the person quickly begin making immediate changes in how they present themselves. Usually a basic "makeover" is required with not only the way a person dresses, but also how they stand, walk, smile and talk etc. As we all know, initial impressions are very important but I also work on having them actually become the positive, happy and more confident person that they are now portraying. Of course, in a relationship there will be a great deal of communications back and forth- so it's very important to establish good patterns of attractive and effective communication from the beginning as well as developing skills and abilities to adjust as the relationship develops.

Although I advise on more typical and traditional type of relationships I do a lot of coaching on relationships where there are large differences between the partners such as racial and cultural differences as well as large age differences (my fiancée is a 29 year old African American and my former wife of 25 years was Japanese).

I should also mention that although I do advise on more traditional type relationships that I'm not your typical  relationship adviser/coach. I often advise in an unorthodox way but with a very pragmatic and logical approach; and I cover all areas including the realities of various expectations from both sides concerning finances, sex, treatment/communication with each other etc. (and even personal contracts of understanding to make sure both are on the same page). But even all of this is very flexible, and some expectations/understandings may best be covered a little later, step by step, as the 2 parties are further educated and as they further grow and appreciate each other more.

After first quickly maximizing and improving the outward appearance and approach of the person, I also teach what I call "the total package" approach to relationships. In brief, we all can't be super rich and handsome/beautiful- and even the rich and attractive may lack in other areas including presentation/communication skills (although a lot of this can be taught). So one must thoroughly know all of the positive things they DO have to offer (or can develop) including one's all important character, and then effectively package and present these as an attractive, overall, "total package". Also, one must discern what is truly important to the lady or man, and if possible package themselves (or quickly train themselves) in a way to interest that person (and this may include such things as, for example, coaching an older guy on how to be more fun, maybe even learn a few dance moves etc.). I work on both the packaging of my clients as well as quickly training them on areas that can make a major difference in how they are perceived and accepted but require minimal effort. As briefly mentioned above, these may begin with relatively simple things such as how to stand more confidently (and posture), walk better, smile and talk more confidently as well as the overall presentation/image etc. Of course, although it may take a little longer, a quick get in shape and lose weight program can be very beneficial too (and if my program is followed, it can be done surprisingly quickly and easily).

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*No matter what your age or other supposed minuses, you can find and make that life changing relationship (or greatly improve the relationship you already have). I'm sure you're smart, but you'll be amazed at how insightful and effective my coaching is. I guarantee it.
​Please call me for a free 30 minute consultation at 435-669-6615 or email at japanus@msn.com

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